How does divorce mediation work?

If you are looking to divorce then you may think that you have to battle it out in court. While litigation was once a prerequisite in order to end a marriage, this is no longer the case. A nasty courtroom battle only adds unnecessary emotional stress to an already heartbreaking situation. Nobody enters a marriage hoping it will end in divorce, but if it does, there is a more peaceful alternative for you: divorce mediation.

Mediation is different in that the couple, not a judge, agrees on the various aspects of their divorce with the help of a third party, called a mediator, who acts in a neutral capacity. While he or she does not take sides, the mediator can answer questions and help move the process along toward a quick and fair resolution.

The goal of mediation is to resolve your disputes without the cost and drama involved with litigation. Mediation also allows you and your spouse to find creative ways to settle arguments. When a judge makes a decision, there is no room for negotiation, which is why it may be in your best interest to attempt to settle matters without hostility. You and your spouse can use mediation to work out asset division or iron out the details regarding who gets custody of your children.

Although mediation can work for you and many other Connecticut couples, it's not for everyone. It works best in an uncontested divorce where the parties are still on speaking terms with each other and are willing to part ways amicably. If there is anger involved, it will be difficult for both of you to successfully negotiate. Since each divorce is different, it's best for you and your spouse to find the path that works best given your unique situation.