After the kids go the marriage follows

Now that the kids are gone, it seems like more parents than ever are looking at their marriage and saying, “There’s nothing here for me anymore.” Over the past two decades, the number of gray divorces has risen substantially, and Connecticut is no exception. Can you prevent this from happening to your marriage?

Well, let’s just say you have a 50/50 chance. Staying involved in each other’s lives and having a mindset of commitment to each other gives you better odds. Unfortunately, people who are marrying today have a mindset of: “If it doesn’t work out, or I get tired of this life and am not happy in it, I’ll get a divorce and start over.” Even if people say they don’t believe that, many people still have it in the back of their minds.

It is doubtful that the number of over-50 divorces is going to be decreasing any time soon. People are living longer and looking younger in advanced age; they are not ready to sit back and just relax during their “golden years” like our parents were. Instead, they are ready to start new chapters in their lives.

However, if a divorce in Connecticut is unavoidable, what can you do to make it easier? If you want a quick divorce so you can get on with your life, divorce mediation may be your quickest and least expensive method. This type of divorce is usually quicker because you don’t have to go in front of a judge who makes the final decisions in your divorce on things such as: property division, child custody and support agreements, and even alimony if it applies to your situation.

Mediators will work with you and your partner and try to come up with equitable agreements on the major decisions, bringing in other parties if necessary, such as counselors or financial advisors. However, both you and your spouse must be committed to working toward a solution, and must be able to get along at least to a degree. If divorcing couples cannot get along, they will inevitably end up fighting it out in court.